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Pressure and emotionSecrecy (“don't tell anyone”)
Being asked not to talk to anyone about it – the manipulator doesn't want anyone to warn you.
Secrecy isolates you: as long as you tell no one, no one can warn you. That’s why “don’t tell anyone” turns up in fake bank calls, in pleas from “grandchildren” and in scam emails from “the boss”.
A call “from the bank”: “We’ll keep your money safe. But don’t tell anyone at the branch why you’re withdrawing it – there may be an insider involved.”
How to spot it
- You are asked not to talk about it with family, colleagues, your bank or the police.
- The secrecy comes with a “sensible” reason: a surprise for your wife, a confidential deal, an insider at the branch.
- The request for silence comes together with money, personal details or a rush.
How to check and what to do
- Do the opposite: tell at least one person you trust.
- Call the person or organisation the message claims to be from, on a number you know yourself.
- At the bank, feel free to say why you are withdrawing money and who called you – the staff can help you check.
- At work, talk to your manager or a colleague, even if the matter is supposedly “confidential”.
Tip: Your bank, the police or a loved one in trouble won’t forbid you to talk it over with your family.
Full explanation and exercises:
thinkcritical.eu/en/manipulation-atlas/secrecy